After the 2008 SPM results were out, there seemed to exist Post SPM dilemmas among the descendants of Syed Abdullah and Mohd. Salleh Khir. Post SPM dilemmas emerged when the results for their pursuance of their tertiary education were out.
You would not have a dilemma if you have no choice but to pursue the only course available to you. The dilemma would show its ugly head when there were multiple choices available and the candidate was not of a strong in character and also not a firm decision maker. A candidate with strong character and very focus in his/her ambition would surely decide on the course he/she would take based on very minimal advice from others. Then the parent would have no choice but to follow suit in supporting the choice of their son/daughter. .
Problems would arise when the candidate who has the pleasure of multiple choices but does not posses strong character as well not having a clear and very focus on his/her ambition in life. Then he/she would have to lean on others to decide for him/her. The dilemma would then be exaggerated further if the parents were over protective of their children irrespective of their children actual capabilities. They even forget that the entry into the tertiary education was just the beginning of the education journey and yet they were already talking about doing the post graduate studies.
Children are Allah’s gifts to us and we must be thankful that Allah has given us healthy adoring children but with different mental capabilities. Some would travel on a highway in the journey of their life. Some have got to travel by the old winding roads. Whichever journey of life that they have taken, yet they would eventually arrive at their destination. Maybe those who travel on the highway would arrive faster but those who travel on the old winding road would arrive later but surely they would have fine solace in enjoying the beautiful scenery along the way.
The post SPM dilemma would turn its ugly head if the person who has given sincere advice would be misunderstood as belittling their son/daughter. The ugly head would turn into a time bomb when the adverse feelings of belittling their children were conveyed to the person who has given the advice.
Although there were some ripples on the level of sincerity on the part of the advisers, yet Mohd. Salleh Khir’s descendants did not suffer the catastrophe because they were wise not to convey the feeling of unpleasantness of the advisee to the adviser. Even some of them were very much wiser in not displaying their true actual feelings.
Whereas on the Syed Abdullah’s family, it was rather unfortunate that the feeling of unpleasantness of the advisee was conveyed to the adviser. The adviser was so disgusted with the adverse feelings of her sister because she has given a genuine sincere advise based on her experience and also on the true feeling of love for her nephew. All her good deeds to her nieces previously were gone to waste if her sincere advice has been misunderstood. Only Allah would know whether a person is sincere or otherwise.
As for me, I have survived the Post SPM dilemmas because I played a safe game in not trampling on the dirty wrong path. I think the post SPM dilemma saga would end naturally when all the candidates has settled comfortably in their chosen tertiary course. We do hope that everybody would arrive at the finishing lines triumphantly. Insya Allah.
You would not have a dilemma if you have no choice but to pursue the only course available to you. The dilemma would show its ugly head when there were multiple choices available and the candidate was not of a strong in character and also not a firm decision maker. A candidate with strong character and very focus in his/her ambition would surely decide on the course he/she would take based on very minimal advice from others. Then the parent would have no choice but to follow suit in supporting the choice of their son/daughter. .
Problems would arise when the candidate who has the pleasure of multiple choices but does not posses strong character as well not having a clear and very focus on his/her ambition in life. Then he/she would have to lean on others to decide for him/her. The dilemma would then be exaggerated further if the parents were over protective of their children irrespective of their children actual capabilities. They even forget that the entry into the tertiary education was just the beginning of the education journey and yet they were already talking about doing the post graduate studies.
Children are Allah’s gifts to us and we must be thankful that Allah has given us healthy adoring children but with different mental capabilities. Some would travel on a highway in the journey of their life. Some have got to travel by the old winding roads. Whichever journey of life that they have taken, yet they would eventually arrive at their destination. Maybe those who travel on the highway would arrive faster but those who travel on the old winding road would arrive later but surely they would have fine solace in enjoying the beautiful scenery along the way.
The post SPM dilemma would turn its ugly head if the person who has given sincere advice would be misunderstood as belittling their son/daughter. The ugly head would turn into a time bomb when the adverse feelings of belittling their children were conveyed to the person who has given the advice.
Although there were some ripples on the level of sincerity on the part of the advisers, yet Mohd. Salleh Khir’s descendants did not suffer the catastrophe because they were wise not to convey the feeling of unpleasantness of the advisee to the adviser. Even some of them were very much wiser in not displaying their true actual feelings.
Whereas on the Syed Abdullah’s family, it was rather unfortunate that the feeling of unpleasantness of the advisee was conveyed to the adviser. The adviser was so disgusted with the adverse feelings of her sister because she has given a genuine sincere advise based on her experience and also on the true feeling of love for her nephew. All her good deeds to her nieces previously were gone to waste if her sincere advice has been misunderstood. Only Allah would know whether a person is sincere or otherwise.
As for me, I have survived the Post SPM dilemmas because I played a safe game in not trampling on the dirty wrong path. I think the post SPM dilemma saga would end naturally when all the candidates has settled comfortably in their chosen tertiary course. We do hope that everybody would arrive at the finishing lines triumphantly. Insya Allah.
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